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Mark Twain once said, "The two most important days in your life are the day you are born, and, the day you find out why." I agree with him; yet, for most of us, waiting for the day to discover why we were put on this planet is agonizingly long and frustrating. Or, perhaps the day has come when what you thought was your life's purpose has come to an end, and you are left feeling lost and rudderless. What now?
"Live your passion!" is a big buzz phrase these days. But is passion the same thing as purpose? What if you don't know what your passion is? What if what you are passionate about isn't what pays the bills? What if you can't do what you are most passionate about? What then?
Have you ever asked yourself any of these questions? I know I have, lots of times, for many different reasons. They are excellent questions. But what's even more excellent is when we discover the answer to the questions. Right?
Where I have discovered that answers are most often found—for myself and through coaching hundreds of others—is within the quality of the relationships we have in our lives.
Everything we do in this life is based on a relationship, whether it be a chance encounter with a stranger, or interacting with the people who move in and out of our lives on a daily basis—family, friends, co-workers, customers, loved ones, etc. You cannot carry out passion/purpose without others, or you are not completing a quality circuit. Or in technical speak: you fizzle out.
The most important relationship we will ever have, however, is the one we have with ourselves. Inside of you is where the spark begins.
The quality of the relationships YOU (yes you) create in your life, on any level, depends on the energy (spark) you bring to the situation and how you decide to act or respond, in any given moment. <--- And THAT all depends on how your Limiting Beliefs (fizzle) govern your life.
If you are not 'living your purpose,' in any area of your life, I can promise you—promise you—something about your thinking, your perspective, your beliefs, are getting in your way.
What are Limiting Beliefs?
The term Limiting Belief is used to describe a mode of thinking and behaving that holds you back in any area of your life, and, they place limitations on your ability to take action and achieve your goals. Call them gremlins, inner critic, negative thoughts, excuses -- it's all about the programming you have in your subconscious mind.
Top 10 Limiting Beliefs
- Fear of our greatness
- Fear of not being (good, sexy, pretty, thin, wealthy etc) enough
- Fear of not being loved
- Fear of rejection
- Fear of failure
- Fear of success
- I don't deserve/I am not worthy of success
- I don't have the money
- I don't have the time
- It's too late/It's too soon
- Because of people/events/circumstances in my life, I can't...
Amanda Goldston, Clear Limiting Beliefs
The First Step
Achieving understanding about the source of your limiting beliefs is the first, most important step, because it brings awareness about your thinking, beliefs and behaviors (often from childhood) to our current perspective. If you are serious about achieving your life goals, you cannot hide behind a belief system that was forged in your yesterdays, and which continue to hold you back in your today.
Identifying these beliefs and then identifying how you will change them takes surprisingly little time. But I'm not here to convince you of that. I'm going to let you convince yourself. Why? Because truth cannot be described or communicated. It can only be experienced. Otherwise, you are just following someone else's belief, someone else's plan, someone else's message.
You absolutely have the power to change and create the life you want. A coach helps you help yourself in creating the blueprint that will get you there. However, and let me be very clear on this point: Coaching is not for people who need it. Coaching is for people who want it.
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It is in loving, not in being loved, the heart is blessed;
It is in giving, not in seeking gifts, we find our quest;
Whatever be your longing, or your need, that give;
So shall your soul be fed, and you, indeed, shall live.
- Author Unknown -
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